The new year started off pretty well, but in the past week, following a falling out with a friend, I suddenly realized how little and how much people can change all at once. The more I think about it, the more I begin to understand that this is how some people have always been. Everyone else is moving forward while they stand still, not understanding that all they need to do is make the attempt to move and it will happen.
It isn't possible to look it up online and try to read articles on how to become likable, read books on how to win friends and influence people and then tell us advice for how to "network" because it is important to build "useful connections." It is unfortunate that for some, just being yourself does not cut it. It brings to mind a robot trying desperately to understand the subtleties of human relationships and interaction. It is, regrettably, not something you can learn from a book.
There is no one size fits all user guide to making friends (and keeping them) for a reason. Thinking of people as useful connections and members of his "professional network" rather than friends may be one of the primary issues here...but, we're not following "100% tried and true techniques" by some online blogger whose primary goal in life is to passively accrue income. We are utterly unqualified to say anything on the matter.
When I can no longer remember why we are friends in the first place, we are already too far gone.
And then comes the "we are no longer friends on Facebook/Myspace/etc." Not immediately, but a few days later.
The final shock and horror, egads,! oh noes,
...but ultimately, good riddance.
It isn't possible to look it up online and try to read articles on how to become likable, read books on how to win friends and influence people and then tell us advice for how to "network" because it is important to build "useful connections." It is unfortunate that for some, just being yourself does not cut it. It brings to mind a robot trying desperately to understand the subtleties of human relationships and interaction. It is, regrettably, not something you can learn from a book.
There is no one size fits all user guide to making friends (and keeping them) for a reason. Thinking of people as useful connections and members of his "professional network" rather than friends may be one of the primary issues here...but, we're not following "100% tried and true techniques" by some online blogger whose primary goal in life is to passively accrue income. We are utterly unqualified to say anything on the matter.
When I can no longer remember why we are friends in the first place, we are already too far gone.
And then comes the "we are no longer friends on Facebook/Myspace/etc." Not immediately, but a few days later.
The final shock and horror, egads,! oh noes,
...but ultimately, good riddance.
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